Judson's Legacy

Whitening Locks


I recently reconnected with some friends I see intermittently; those with whom months can go by between visits but it’s always a joy to catch up when the opportunity arises.  Interestingly, I had one of them ask, “Did you stop coloring your hair?”  I chuckled.  I chuckled because I’ve learned this is code for, Has your hair always been that gray?!??   And with a wry smile I acknowledged my nice new crop of silver waves.

I’ve grayed significantly over the last four years. 

Gray hair is obviously a common part of the aging process, but many experts also agree that stress can significantly contribute to whitening locks.  So it’s left me wondering…would my hair have been this same level of gray at this stage in my life regardless of my journey?

I’ve experienced many physical reactions to our life stressors over the last four years—and it seems as though my gray hair could be deemed one of them.  I look in the mirror and my weathered soul feels connected to the silver tresses shimmering back at me.  Strangely, my white locks seem appropriate; they somehow reflect my trek through hardship and remind me that although I may feel tattered and worn out, these ashen curls are more like wearing a distressed pair of jeans rather than dated trousers. 

I don’t know how long I’ll refrain from coloring my hair, but for now, I’ll delight in having my husband call me his “silver fox” and trust that “gray hair is a mark of distinction, the award for a God-loyal life” (Proverbs 16:31—The Message).

5 Responses to "Whitening Locks"

  1. Melanie says:

    Hear, hear, Christina! Gina Sunukjian and I were just talking about this as the gray is starting to crop up for us as well. We’re committed to going the distance without coloring, so you’ll have companionship if that’s what you decide to do. =)

    There are also a couple of books out exploring the idea of going gray with confidence. This one seems like an interesting one:


  2. Angie Green says:

    YOU are sooo real and I LOVE that about YOU!

    After our son, Kevin, died my sister-in-law said to me "one day, after you have healed from this heartbreak, you will not look 80 anymore." At the time, I didn’t realize I looked 80, but I certainly felt 80 – my entire personna had changed and when I look at pictures of myself over the past 9 years as I have journeyed through grief, I have often looked at the photo and said out loud "who is that?"

    My hair turned completely gray within the first 2 years after Kevin’s death, and just recently I decided that the gray had to GO! As I continue to reach for healing and renewed joy in Christ, the gray just doesn’t fit anymore – I was OK with it for 9 years, but no more.

    I want you to know that YOU are beautiful just the way you are and white in the hair is a sign of "wisdom" as the good Book says, even though I cannot recount the actual scripture right now. As I have been following your blog and Facebook pages, I have often said to the Lord – "Isn’t she BEAUTIFUL? She is more beautiful than ever" and I mean it – – "He gives beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, praise for heaviness for we are the planting of the Lord that He might be glorified." Isaiah 61:3 – – keep on glorifying the LORD, He’s creating something and someone beautiful in YOU – gray or not gray – white or not white – – you are BEAUTIFUL handiwork of our LORD!

    Love and Hugs – Angie

  3. aunt sue says:

    Hear, hear Christina! It could be partly hereditary too. As you know your dad and I greyed early. I started getting grey when I was in my 30’s!! Sometimes I color now and sometimes I don’t. I’ve never colored completely and I do it myself. I laugh because I have about 5 different colors in my hair! Actually I look better with some white in my hair. I agree that you are beautiful no matter what color the hair. 🙂 So go for it . . . . . Love, aunt sue

  4. My friend calls his "wisdom highlights"— I like that!!! 🙂

  5. Gina says:

    I was VERY excited to see this post and know there is someone out there who is 1) around my age and 2) graying and 3) not coloring. I have felt all alone. Thanks for the inspiration!

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