Judson's Legacy

The Certificate


Today was the first time I was asked for a death certificate to prove that Judson is dead and I am actually his “next of kin”. 

This request apparently struck a sensitive cord with me because tears pooled in my eyes and I even got a little defensive with the woman on the phone from the medical records office for our health services organization.  “Why do you need his death certificate?” I asked.  “He died under your care.  You should have all that information right there.”

“Because we need to see that you are his mom.”

“You know I am his mom—it’s in your records!  And I didn’t have to prove to you that I was Jud’s mom when he was alive.  I am still his mom whether he is dead or alive!”

The poor woman who was just doing her job replied, “That’s the policy.  When someone dies we need a copy of their death certificate.”

“Okay.  I’ll fax it over to you,” I conceded.

When I put down the phone, the tears sitting in my eyes flowed down my cheeks…

I hate that our file cabinet holds a death certificate for Judson and even more so the fact that I needed it today.

10 Responses to "The Certificate"

  1. Laura Baesel says:

    Oh, Christie. I’m so sorry….

  2. Lori Levasheff says:

    Christina, I am so very sorry.

  3. Jackie says:

    I am so sorry. I could not imagine. I have sent up a prayer for comfort and strength. My thoughts are with you.

  4. Rebekah says:

    It isn’t right. I’m so sorry, my friend.

  5. Cathy Horner says:

    Christina~This sounds like a very torturous request; I am so sorry you have to deal with the legal side of your heartache! I have been thinking of you and your family a lot lately and keeping you in my prayers.

  6. Wendy Heak says:

    Christina, what a horrible request. Continually praying for you.
    Love Wendy

  7. Vince says:

    My heart aches for you..that is so awful to go through. All the legal stuff is so insensitive,talking to strangers on the phone about the death OUR precious child ….

    There should be some way, with our approval for them to get the certificate without us, the parents, having to send it…I am so sorry


  8. Jean and Gary Butler says:

    Oh Christina~We’re so sorry that you had to go through that.Hugs from us~Jean and Gary

  9. Allyson Stevenson says:

    So sorry dear Christina….We pray for your tender aching,but healing heart. We love you so! Stevenson Family

  10. hh says:

    Love you Christina. My heart just aches for you.

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