Dear family and friends,
Many people have asked us how we spent our time remembering Jud on the first anniversary of his death.
The day began with tears , was filled with tears, and ended in tears, but there were sweet times in between.
We gathered with extended family in the morning at Judson’s tree in Wilson Park. Each person tied a special ribbon on the posts that uphold the sycamore, and then we simply sat together soaking in the significance of the day.
At 11:30 am, the time of Jud’s death, some of the family gathered in Jud and Jessie’s room and we lit a candle in honor of our little boy’s life. Drake and I laid in the khaki sack where our “Buddy Boo” breathed his last as everyone shared emotions, stories, prayers, words of encouragement, and their love of Jud.
In the afternoon, Drake and I went by ourselves to Judson’s gravesite for reflection and connection; it was a sorrowful but important time for the two of us.
We were also blessed the following day by some friends who stopped by to show their love and support. They brought balloons for us to release together, wrote notes to Jud, shared with us the significance and impact our little man has had on their lives, and gave us some tangible gifts. We were touched by their efforts, thoughtfulness, generosity and love.
Overall, the weekend was filled with beautiful notes, some precious gifts, thoughtful messages, and love from numerous people. We were surrounded significantly in prayer and upheld by the thoughts of SO many who have been journeying with us. This is what keep us from crumbling – the unexpected love of others. We are extremely grateful for the support!
We are most moved by the hearts of dear ones (both familiar and unfamiliar to us) who have not only felt for us in our pain, but have actually entered into our experience wherein our pain has become their pain too. Thank you to all who have hurt with us, beyond just hurting for us!
As all the commotion of the occasion from the first anniversary dies down, we still hold very broken hearts. May time continue to slowly quell this ache.
With tremendous gratitude,
Christina (on behalf of Drake too)