Judson's Legacy

Mine Alone

When I am with other people it is not uncommon for them to see sorrow written on my face or to notice tears pooling in my eyes.  These are the surface emotions; they are easily shared with people who care.  Family and friends readily engage these feelings with me.

However, it is only in solitary moments that my intense emotions flow—the emotions that sit in my gut only to erupt in solitude.

I wail.  I yell…

“What happened to my boy?!!??”

“I want Jud!!!!!”

“I hate that he was here one day and then gone the next.  I hate it!!!!!”

“Oh God, I miss my son!!!!!”

I fall to the floor aching in pain.  I scream…

“I can’t do this anymore!!!!!  I can’t live without him any longer!!!!!  Enough is enough!!!!!”

“I want my boy back!!!!!”

“Is there really NOTHING I can do to be near him??!!?”

“I can’t wait a lifetime!!!!!”

I sob profusely.  I shout…

“I long to have him close!!!!!”

“You have given me more than I can bear!!!!!”

“Please, please Lord, help me!!!!!”

It is in these moments I realize that this grief is mine, and mine alone.  It is not anyone else’s grief.  It is not Drake’s grief.  It is not my parents’ grief.  It is not my church’s grief.  It is only Christina’s grief.  It is my grief, and even though it feels isolating…

No one else can carry it.  No one else can grieve for me.  No one else can know my grief like I know my grief.  No one else is Jud’s mom and will grieve as I grieve.  No one else will feel what I feel.

I must grieve.  I must let it out.  I must feel the pain.  I must walk this path…

Even if it makes me feel alone.


4 Responses to "Mine Alone"

  1. 33749 says:

    Oh Christina, how I wish that my tears could relieve some of your pain! I wish that for every person who has cried a tear for you and your pain would be just a little less pain for you to bear. But you are right, we cannot greive for you… no matter how much we wish we could help this way.

  2. 33705 says:

    While I can not say I know your pain, as grief is unique to each of us, I can say I feel those same emotions, scream similar frustrations, and make similar pleas. Who would have ever thought, as mothers, that we’d have to travel these paths. You are in my prayers…that God give you the strength for each moment and at least small glimpses of peace.

  3. 34666 says:

    Oh Christina…. I am so sorry. I know you miss him so very much.

    Thinking of you,

  4. 33865 says:

    My words exactly…thank you Christina for sharing…I really do need my fellow krabbe parents during this time…I really don’t feel as though I can make it another day without Kenji…the pain seems to be getting worse…I don’t know what to do.

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