I have been averaging a visit to Judson’s gravesite about once or twice a week. Recently many have asked me what the draw is for frequenting Space 7G in Edgewood Garden at Fairhaven Memorial Park.
I must admit that prior to Judson’s death, I did not understand what would entice someone to visit the gravesite of a loved one, especially since we know a person is no longer present with their body once they have breathed their last breath.
But I get it now!
It may be different for each person, but I have found that Jud’s burial ground tugs at me for two reasons:
First, though Judson’s soul has separated from his body, I am unable to separate him from his body. The frame I bore from my womb, the body that I hugged, kissed, held, and cared for is laying in plot 7G. I love that little body. Though I cannot see it or touch it now, it is presently laid to “rest” in Edgewood Garden, and I long to be close.
Second, this 9’ x 4’ plot of land at Fairhaven Memorial Park is the only place in the world set aside just for Judson. It is his place. Therefore, I like to be in his place.
The strong desire to visit the gravesite of a loved one is not the same for everybody. Though he visits periodically, Drake does not feel a similar pull to frequent Space 7G. The grief process is different for all, but I have found that one of my favorite places in the world is now a little patch of grass in Santa Ana, CA.