We have moved.
Boxes are unpacked, we are slowly putting up decorations, and our new abode is, bit by bit, starting to feel like home. The process of getting to this point has been rough, but the end result is good. All the while I have been learning once again to hold everything in my heart all at once.
I love our old home! I love that it sat on a park. I love that it was spacious and well planned for organization. I love that it was in easy walking distance of some great places. And most of all, I love that it holds precious and significant memories. I love our old home!
I love our new home! I love that it is in an amazing area and feels like we just moved into a resort. I love that it is in a setting ripe for community connection. I love that it is around the block from a fabulous school for Jessie. I love the layout of our living space. And most of all, I love that Jessie is already blossoming in this environment!
I love both homes…at the same time. I have found it important to recognize that I do not have to deny my love for our former home to embrace our new home; I can value both simultaneously.
This may seem obvious to some, but I have found in life that my natural tendency has been to feel that two distinct things—emotions, ideas, objects and experiences—must be in conflict; that somehow they cannot coexist (i.e. experiencing joy and pain at the same time). So to love my new home would have led me to compare and ultimately deny my love for my old home.
Moving toward maturity has necessitated learning to embrace contrasting things concurrently.
Are there contrasting things in your life that you are learning to hold concurrently?