Judson's Legacy

Destructiveness of Deception

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Sometimes I am blown away by the audacity of people and the ease at which they are willing to deceive for their own interest.

As stated in my previous blog, we received information last Friday that our home of almost five years, the home where Judson took his last breaths, was sold back to the bank—it foreclosed.  As tenants in a foreclosure situation, sadly, the only information available to you is that which is considered public record; this leaves the tenant trying to maneuver through a system with very limited knowledge while their home hangs in the balance. 

After we contacted our landlord indicating our knowledge of the foreclosure and confirming that we would no longer be paying him rent, he emphatically told us our information was inaccurate and not valid, that he had come to an agreement with the bank and maintained ownership of the home.  Meanwhile, he demanded our rent for the rest of January while assessing late fees.  He also accused us of being out of line for “investigating” while in the same breath telling us he cares about our family.

We found it hard to believe our long-time landlord, someone we trusted, with whom we had a good working-relationship, would outright lie to us—but something was amiss.  We needed to investigate while also protect ourselves.  More than anything, we just wanted to do the right thing.

Drake and I were left in a tailspin–wondering if we were somehow off-base with the information we had, scrambling for confirmation of the sale (a sale we never wanted in the first place), trying to ascertain our tenant rights, and ultimately anxious over our uncertain future which suddenly seemed even less secure. 

This proved to be a tipping point for me—sleepless nights, headaches, nausea and overall emotional turmoil.  As the facts were in dispute, I felt powerless to determine the truth; every phone call lead to a dead end and our landlord deemed it unnecessary to provide us with further documentation (as much as this seemed sketchy, we wanted to believe the best).

Who would have imagined relief would arise out of a visit from a representative of Freddie Mac showing up on our doorstep this afternoon?   

Though the man at our door came to inform us the property had foreclosed and to give us notice that we will need to cut a deal with the bank to vacate the property (a dreaded thought for us), his presence confirmed the truth—and suddenly I was set free.  I was set free from the confusion that had plagued me these last few days as we tried to make sense of the discrepancies.

But it also revealed something else.  It revealed that our landlord of several years, a man who is fully aware of all our family has been through with Judson, who knows just how much this home means to us, and who said he regarded us as ideal tenants, had flat-out lied to us, several times, to unlawfully milk us for more money.  Here is a man who works in the real estate industry and is clearly knowledgeable about the process, who on his website indicates he “believes in incorporating ethics and integrity into every transaction,” yet was purposefully misleading us.  It hurt.  It hurt us a lot!

Our landlord will likely never know just how destructive his deception has been to us, but we have again been reminded of the value and power of truth. 

And so we cling to the God of all Truth!

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Can anything really be gained through deception?

Categories: General Life, Relationships

10 Responses to "Destructiveness of Deception"

  1. I am seething, and so sorry for you going through such an agonising process! I personally find it very hard when I am deceived and left with no way to assume good faith in someone. However I hope you find peace and hope in the events that come out of this.
    Much love,

    Laura

  2. Freya Remmer says:

    Wow- some people, huh. Not cool at all. That’s very,very sad… Greed can really get a choke hold on people. I feel sorry for the man. He will reap what he has sown.

    I’m praying for the perfect place for you guys! The other day, I found myself thinking about looking for places for you… then I thought, "Christina can handle that on her own, Freya!"

    : )

  3. Sandy Shell says:

    I am sorry about what happen, Those people irritate me. I hope that your move will be smooth and new memories will come abundantly and fill your new home. God does say that if he takes something away, He will bring something better. So I’m sure good things await. Probably the perfect home. The worse part about your landlord and the situation, is that we have to forgive him. Like we haven’t been through enough already. lol Blessings from above,
    Sandy

  4. Robyn Morton says:

    "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.â?? John 8:32 Praying for you to find the perfect home for your memories and for all the memories still to be made.

  5. Darlene says:

    Myself like many others wish we could say or do or done something that would have made a difference to help you through this process. What saddens me most is how landlords can go into foreclosure and then within 2 years be able to get loans out again to purchase more property. I think that is so wrong. I hope that the new home will be a better and ideal place for your family concerning Jessie’s education choices,tho I know your present home has happy and sad memories filled of Judson. I guess like they say everything happens for a reason even when we may not know the reasons to why they take place. I do admit I’m one of those types who has trust issues and I can relate to how one feels when they have been deceived. I hope one day your landlord can come to terms with what he has done to your family. I wish you the best Christine,Drake and Jessie.

    Sending my love and prayers,
    Darlene

  6. I am so sad you have to leave your your home, words can’t describe. I found myself actually thinking of this very thing about a week ago before even reading your last blog and thought how heartbreaking it would be for you and your family if you ever had to leave your home. Needless to say, I was speechless to then read that it was actually happening. I sincerely hope that the process doesn’t happen too quickly and that you are given as much time as possible although I know that it will seem too quick no matter how much time is given. The things you mentioned about timing was so awesome to read. That although in the midst of this you are once again seeing past this coming hurt and can see God’s grace through it. I’m so glad for you that this didn’t happen any sooner as well. The landlord situation is horrible and it’s so sad that something like that has to be added to the entire process. I think people like that just chose to not care or even go down that path as they let selfishness cloud every decision they make. His choices are HUGELY impacting your family and instead of being compassionate he is willing to ruin all of that for just a few payments of rent. One thing comes to mind with this that I was just told by a pastor friend that I spoke to about a very hurtful relationship that affects me daily. He said to look at that person through God’s eyes. Such a simple concept but one that I usually forget. This is so humanly hard to do but it has helped since he said it to me when I am so overcome with sadness by this person’s selfishness. I just wanted to share how that helps me in case it may help you even a little. Sorry about the length of this, just thought I’d write one comment instead of one on each blog. Praying for you and your family!

  7. I am so sad you have to leave your your home, words can’t describe. I found myself actually thinking of this very thing about a week ago before even reading your last blog and thought how heartbreaking it would be for you and your family if you ever had to leave your home. Needless to say, I was speechless to then read that it was actually happening. I sincerely hope that the process doesn’t happen too quickly and that you are given as much time as possible although I know that it will seem too quick no matter how much time is given. The things you mentioned about timing was so awesome to read. That although in the midst of this you are once again seeing past this coming hurt and can see God’s grace through it. I’m so glad for you that this didn’t happen any sooner as well. The landlord situation is horrible and it’s so sad that something like that has to be added to the entire process. I think people like that just chose to not care or even go down that path as they let selfishness cloud every decision they make. His choices are HUGELY impacting your family and instead of being compassionate he is willing to ruin all of that for just a few payments of rent. One thing comes to mind with this that I was just told by a pastor friend that I spoke to about a very hurtful relationship that affects me daily. He said to look at that person through God’s eyes. Such a simple concept but one that I usually forget. This is so humanly hard to do but it has helped since he said it to me when I am so overcome with sadness by this person’s selfishness. I just wanted to share how that helps me in case it may help you even a little. Sorry about the length of this, just thought I’d write one comment instead of one on each blog. Praying for you and your family!

  8. Hi Drake and Christina

    I am truly sorry you must deal with the process. Please though take a moment to realize that you are in such a better mental state then this so called landlord who is in such denial that he might truly be believing his own lies.

    Late fees? Quite humorous though sounds like a headache I’m sure.

    You do live in truth and reality and he does not —you are in a much better state with or without a roof over your head then this guy…..alas he may soon be without a roof and truth quite soon!

    I got a van…..:)

    (Hope that just brings a smile and is in no way taking away any seriousness of the situation)
    Love to you! Deven

  9. Barbro says:

    Happy weddingday!
    God bless you!

  10. It means so much to have all of your feel with us. This has been such a difficult process, and unfortunately, the drama continues. Ugh! We would covet your prayers for our next steps and new home. Laura: thank you for seething with us! Freya: I got a huge smile on my face when I read that you wanted to help us find a home–so cool! 🙂 Sandy: We have been praying for our landlord and though right now we must "fight" for our rights, we will certainly forgive…but by the grace of God have we been forgiven! Robyn: that’s the verse I had in mind when I wrote this. Darlene: we, too, have been disheartened by this whole process and what people can get away with. Jennifer: I am so touched that you had been thinking about our home situation and am grateful for your understanding! Deven: don’t be surprised if you get a call from us. 🙂

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